Relationship Advice: How to Approach Holiday Gift Giving

It is that festive time of year again when, all of sudden, there is so much to do in so little time. There is also an enormous pressure to spend, spend, spend in order to make the holidays special. In addition to decorating the house, buying food, sending out cards to your nearest and dearest and buying presents for your family and friends, there is the issue of buying a present for your partner.

The first thing to consider is your budget: what you want to spend, what you can afford to spend and what he/she expects you to spend. Make a list of all the things you need to buy for the holiday season and how much each item will cost (roughly). Then consider your finances and how much you are able to spend on your other half. It may also be a good idea to talk to your partner about how much you should spend on each other, to avoid an embarrassing exchange on the big day.

Next, think back to recent conversations with your boyfriend/girlfriend to see if they have given you any hints as to what they want. This may have occurred while you were shopping and they took a particular interest in an item. It may have been while you were watching TV and an advert came on that made them pay attention. You might have heard them moaning about lacking a particular clothing item or making general comments after seeing someone walk past in something they liked. Hopefully your partner took note of hints you have been making too!

You can also try asking his/her friends or family members about what they would like. If that gets you nowhere, simply think of something that means something to you as a couple. A gift that will remind them of you or of a special moment in your relationship because as Mother Teresa said: “It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” This option could also save you money if you choose to make something. You can give them a souvenir from a past date or even frame a picture of you two as a couple or a collage of memories.

Another option would be to get your one and only an experience that they will enjoy like a spa treatment, concert tickets, a day driving racing cars or flight tickets (if you are able to spend a little more this season). These experiences will also benefit you and your relationship as they will be something you can do together and an excuse for a date night.

Remember: ultimately it is the thought that counts, so try not to stress too much. Think of your partner’s interests, personality and personal style while shopping. Think creatively and outside of the box. The best presents come from the heart, after all! Enjoy the holiday’s guys.



Now that you have the gift sorted, what are your plans for the night? Still not decided? Eric Bellinger is here to help:

If all else fails, there’s always the simple DVD and take out option. Here are some of films and books that will leave you feeling inspired and with a fresh outlook on life:


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